Anxiety feels like a silent monster attacking your thoughts. Telling you lies…lies that, for some reason, you are quick to believe. Lots of us struggle with anxiety and feel hopeless to deal with it.
I dealt with anxiety for many years as a military spouse and mommy. Being without my spouse for up to a year with multiple children was enough to drive me a little cuckoo. All the responsibility that goes along with being a mother had me so stressed and anxious that most days it was a chore to keep it all together.
The first thing you should do, when in the midst of an anxious day, is to control your thinking with positive affirmations. You’re hearing lies like, “I CAN’T DO THIS ANYMORE!” and, “ONCE AGAIN I MESSED EVERYTHING UP, ” and you need to combat those wrong thoughts by using right words. It helps to have something on hand either in an app on your phone or maybe in a notebook you keep in your purse. Have 3-5 positive affirmations that you can access easily to get rid of those ugly thoughts.
I know this might seem like a good option for the first step, but could you really focus on your deep breaths while your mind is screaming defeat? I don’t think so. Get rid of those thoughts and then you’re able to sit quietly for 2-3 minutes and just take a few breaths… this should help your heart rate slow down which will help you reach a state of calm
Remember the good things. This can be done many ways. Perhaps you sit and remember your favorite family memories by looking at a photo album. Maybe you scroll through your phone and laugh at a few memes that your friends have sent you. Or maybe you just look around you, in whatever room you’re in, with a mind of gratefulness for everything you’ve been blessed with. Whatever it is, it’s good… remember it to take away from the thought that one problem is an “everything” issue.
This step is optional because not everyone is comfortable with writing things in detail. For me it’s therapeutic to write out all of my negative thoughts and feelings. It releases it from my heart and I’m able to leave it there on the tablet or the paper. The actual situation may not be completely resolved, but having got it out is a huge stress reliever. I recommend trying it at least once.
Anxiety can be treated medically but it can also be treated right there in your own space with your own resources. You don’t have to let it beat you down every time it strikes. It sucks. I know, but you can win. I hope these tips help you.
I’m curious, what do you normally do when anxiety strikes? Have you tried anything to combat it? Has it helped? Let’s talk in the comments!