I wrote out a prayer late one night, as I so often do, and asked God to save my relationship because, “we are going down in flames.”
Even if just one of you decides the consequence for your child’s behavior, show that you are a united front by approaching the child together and discussing his behavior as a group. It shows that you support each other and, for you, that even though daddy is “head of the house,” he’s not the sole parent in charge of discipline.
You may think your children prefer you and respect you when they do things like that, but it is the exact opposite. They are manipulating you because they know you do not support your spouse in their efforts to discipline your children.